A reflective essay.
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What is it that causes a man to love a woman? Is it her beauty? Yes and no. Oh, some may argue that it is, but beauty is only that which attracts. Lust is often mistaken for love, but lust fades. We fall in love with the idea of beauty, but if our entire relationship is built on physical beauty, then when we find that beauty marred by the person beneath, the lust flees and we find ourselves longing for something more.
Is it her mind? Perhaps. Idle chatter can only carry a relationship so far. Men and women both desire someone with whom they can share interests, desires, feelings, and thoughts. Though men often fall into the trap of not sharing their thoughts, they are often as desparate as their women to converse. The problem is finding that common ground that opens the door for the conversation. Many men want a woman who can challenge them mentally, helping them to grow, while being soft enough to protect the man's fragile ego. Challenged, but not overwhelmed. And yet, intelligence without the depth of personhood is cold.
Is it her soul? Again, perhaps. What is the soul? It is that indescribable something that makes us who we are. It is the melding of character, emotions, and believe that becomes the driving force for all we do, choose, and seek. It is that indescribable something that attracts some and repels others.
I think it is a combination of each. Spiritual, mental, and physical, we seek those who fill the empty void in ourselves. We look for that which mirrors ourselves in a way that is attractive and yet is different enough that we do not find it boring. And, hopefully, when that is found, we find love.